{"id":40201,"date":"2026-01-04T00:51:45","date_gmt":"2026-01-04T00:51:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/?p=40201"},"modified":"2026-01-04T00:51:45","modified_gmt":"2026-01-04T00:51:45","slug":"how-are-you-is-both-a-passing-greeting-and-a-profound-inquiry-friendship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/?p=40201","title":{"rendered":"\u2018How are you?\u2019 is both a passing greeting and a profound inquiry | Friendship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\n<\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\">I\u2019d like to add one more answer to the \u201cHow are you?\u201d question (Letters, 26 December). A very elderly neighbour, who died several years ago, always gave what became known as the Elton\u00a0John response: \u201cI\u2019m still standing!\u201d I use it myself now and\u00a0remember him each time I do.<br \/><strong>David Duell<\/strong><br \/><em>Durham<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> What a lot of misery guts writing to your letters page. Following a spell in intensive care this October with an infection that I\u2019m starting to see was much more dangerous than I realised at the time, my answer to \u201cHow are you?\u201d is \u201cBetter every day.\u201d And \u2013 many thanks to the NHS \u2013 long may it stay that way.<br \/><strong>Charles Harris<\/strong><br \/><em>London<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> My father used to answer: \u201cHere\u2019s to you \/ As good as you are \/ And here\u2019s to me \/ As bad as I am \/ But as bad as I am \/ And as good as you are \/ I\u2019m as good as you are \/ Bad as I am.\u201d<br \/><strong>Ian Winstanley<\/strong><br \/><em>Ashton-in-Makerfield, Greater Manchester<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> These days, many people eschew the traditional \u201cHow are you?\u201d in favour \u201cAll right?\u201d I\u2019m never really sure how to answer this question. What to say if I\u2019m \u201call wrong\u201d?<br \/><strong>Barbara Riddell<\/strong><br \/><em>Epsom, Surrey<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> In this part of the north-east of England, the more likely greeting is \u201cY\u2019OK?\u201d or \u201cY\u2019all reet?\u201d \u2013 seemingly a more profound inquiry into the human condition. But by the time you nod and smile, they have moved on with a cheery \u201cSee you later\u201d \u2013 a time frame which apparently includes everything from shortly to probably never.<br \/><strong>Peter Lowe<\/strong><br \/><em>Newcastle upon Tyne<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> \u201cHow are you?\u201d isn\u2019t such a brief\u00a0question. In Lancashire it\u2019s\u00a0just \u201c\u2019Ow do?\u201d<br \/><strong>Carol Haines<\/strong><br \/><em>Yealmpton, Plymouth<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> My grandmother, when someone\u00a0asked how she was, would say: \u201cI\u2019m walking around to\u00a0save funeral expenses.\u201d At 83 years of age, I\u2019m\u00a0tempted to say the\u00a0same now and again.<br \/><strong>Lesley Millard<\/strong><br \/><em>Bishop\u2019s Waltham, Hampshire<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> A friend replies to \u201cHow are you?\u2019 with \u201cStill warm to the touch.\u201d<br \/><strong>Rt Rev John Saxbee<\/strong><br \/><em>Haverfordwest, Pembrokeshire<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> I invariably reply \u201cish\u201d and people always know what I mean.<br \/><strong>Maureen Cavanagh<\/strong><br \/><em>Kingsley, Cheshire<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"dcr-130mj7b\"><strong><em><span data-dcr-style=\"bullet\"\/> Have an opinion on anything you\u2019ve read in the Guardian today? Please <\/em><\/strong><strong><em>email<\/em><\/strong><strong><em> us your letter and it will be considered for publication in our <\/em><\/strong><strong><em>letters<\/em><\/strong><strong><em> section.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019d like to add one more answer to the \u201cHow are you?\u201d question (Letters, 26 December). A very elderly neighbour, who died several years ago, always gave what became known as the Elton\u00a0John response: \u201cI\u2019m still standing!\u201d I use it myself now and\u00a0remember him each time I do.David DuellDurham What a lot of misery guts<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":40202,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[4244,21659,357,6755,20912],"class_list":{"0":"post-40201","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-health","8":"tag-friendship","9":"tag-greeting","10":"tag-inquiry","11":"tag-passing","12":"tag-profound"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40201","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=40201"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40201\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/40202"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=40201"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=40201"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/naijaglobalnews.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=40201"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}