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I<\/span>\u2019ve had more good sex than most people have had hot dinners, so when I found a lump in my breast and knew straight away it was cancer, I thought this is fine. I\u2019ve had my fun. I\u2019ll have a mastectomy, get it done and get on with my life.<\/p>\n But when I came out of surgery, I was wheeled into a hospital room shared with one other woman. The doctors closed the curtain around us, sat down and told me the cancer had spread to my lymph nodes and my other breast. I would need a second mastectomy and an extensive course of chemo. I felt as if I\u2019d been hit by a truck. I couldn\u2019t believe it.<\/p>\n When everyone left, the woman on the other side of the curtain, who must have heard this entire conversation, called out to me and said \u201cHey friend, are you OK?\u201d<\/p>\n I replied that actually, no, I\u2019m not. We talked, and she had breast cancer too. She\u2019d just had a lumpectomy. What amazed me was she\u2019d gone through this horrible thing but was so attuned and supportive to me. She told me, \u201cIt\u2019ll be OK. They\u2019re really good at breast cancer. They know how they treat it.\u201d And then we just started talking about our lives.<\/p>\n Her partner later came bearing a marijuana cookie, and we ate half each. When he left, we talked all night \u2013 about our childhoods, our foibles, our mistakes, our mutual past as surfer chicks, her time as a party girl, my kid, her not having kids. We didn\u2019t sleep. At the end of the night, I felt like I\u2019d shared everything that I\u2019d never shared with anyone before, and we just were so loving and kind to each other. And thanks to the cookie, we also laughed so much we wet our pants and got in trouble with the nurses for making too much noise.<\/p>\n The next day she checked out. She sent me an email saying that I was in her thoughts and that she knew I\u2019d be OK. I began two years of intensive treatment \u2013 I had another mastectomy, a hysterectomy, chemo and radiation \u2013 and was too sick to contact anybody. I later had my email hacked and lost her contact details.<\/p>\n But that woman was a gamechanger. Even though I had a not-terribly-positive future in front of me, it was transformative to have this fantastic night together. It taught me two things \u2013 that I could leave that space of darkness and find joy, and to look for the kindness people give you, because kindness is what will sustain you. And it is<\/em> there, if you look for it.<\/p>\n Share your experience<\/p>\n From making your day to changing your life, we want to hear about\u00a0 chance encounters that have stuck with you.\u00a0<\/p>\n Your responses, which can be anonymous, are secure as the form is encrypted and only the Guardian has access to your contributions. 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