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Desmond Carter is on a mission to save the lives of Black men.<\/p>\n
Carter, founder of Mental Health Is Real Wealth, leads a bi-monthly mental health group in Los Angeles\u2019 Leimert Park neighborhood, and on a recent Thursday, 15 Black men gathered inside a conference room without pressure and without women.<\/p>\n
As the men walked in, they dapped each other up and leaned in for an embrace. Many wore LA paraphernalia \u2013 LA snapbacks, Crenshaw district street sign shirts and had various hairstyles \u2013 some had locs, fades and others had braids. The youngest man was 19 years old. There were several men who were more than twice his age. They were all there because they realized one thing: being vulnerable and taking care of your mental health is important.<\/p>\n
<\/span>Desmond Carter leads his group of 15 Black men gathered inside a conference room in Los Angeles\u2019 Leimert Park neighborhood.<\/span><\/p>\n Before they started their session, Carter, 37, told them of his best friend who died by suicide following a schizophrenic depression diagnosis. It\u2019s a story he\u2019s told multiple times.<\/p>\n \u201cIt happened literally 10 years ago, and it\u2019s still tough,\u201d Carter said, who remembers his friend as funny, fly and intelligent. But he often hid his diagnosis and would say he was OK. \u201cIt led me to do what I\u2019m doing now. I see so many of my peers and people who look like me walking around, fly, cool, fresh with the weight of the world on their shoulders, and acting like they are just fine.\u201d<\/p>\n The group is just one of the few Black male-founded safe spaces for men to fully let their guard down, and exists at a time when the suicide rates among Black boys and men have increased by 25.3% in recent years. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) report that suicide is the third leading cause of death for Black male adolescents and young adults. Black boys and men make up an overwhelming majority of suicides within the Black population.<\/p>\n And right now, Black men exist between a rock and a hard place.<\/p>\n Before and after the peak of the Covid era, healthy spaces were limited for Black men to fully express themselves emotionally. Black men are less likely to seek mental health support. And even when they do, they are more likely to receive substandard culturally incompetent care which is rooted in racist health disparities , according to the Kaiser Family Foundation.<\/p>\n <\/span>Research shows the Covid pandemic increased loneliness, but \u2018there\u2019s one thing that\u2019s underresearched and overlooked: Black men and their mental health.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n Research shows the Covid-19 pandemic increased loneliness and isolation amongst the general population. While there are public debates about the validity of a \u201cmale loneliness epidemic\u201d and the impact of online misogyny in the \u201cmanosphere\u201d in general, there\u2019s one thing that\u2019s underresearched and overlooked: Black men and their mental health.<\/p>\n Lance Lenford, a psychologist, said he noticed a shift in society during and after Covid. Gen X and millennial Americans were told that in order to reach the American Dream, they would have to go to school, get married and buy a house, but there\u2019s now an identity crisis for those who have not been able to do so. This is especially true with Black men.<\/p>\n \u201cI think that there\u2019s this space where we\u2019re figuring out how to be and how to exist in this \u2013 just to be frank \u2013 in this white world that we\u2019re in while trying to spread our own wings and be who we feel we are meant to be, or who we can be \u2026\u201d Lenford said. \u201cBut you run into this wall, and you get to a point where it\u2019s like, I don\u2019t really know what I\u2019m doing any more.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/span>\u2018I see so many of my peers and people who look like me walking around, fly, cool, fresh with the weight of the world on their shoulders, and acting like they are just fine,\u2019 Carter says.<\/span><\/p>\n For older Black men, there\u2019s also an identity crisis as they start to think more about what retirement may look like for them and their ideal picture of what they want, not adding up. These issues are exacerbated once gen X and millennial Black men become fathers because of financial parenthood pressures.<\/p>\n While Black millennial men are now spending more time with their children than other groups and more than previous generations, when they are stressed, they may not have the time or money to go to therapy, Lenford said. There\u2019s also the aspect of not having the chance to figure out your own identity before you\u2019ve had a child.<\/p>\n \u201cYou have this duality of, \u2018I have to be the provider,\u2019\u201d Lenford said. \u201cI have to be this person that I want to be, and I believe that I am, and I presented myself to be, but I\u2019m also kind of falling apart because I don\u2019t really know where I\u2019m going or how I\u2019m really doing this.\u201d<\/p>\n Black men\u2019s significant challenges include economic, healthcare and educational disparities as well as systemic racism and social injustice, according to the American Psychological Association. Also, deaths of despair \u2013 deaths from suicide, alcohol use and drug overdoses are now higher among Black people than white people.<\/p>\n Along with the harms of living in a patriarchal society and having to subscribe to the roles of providers as men in general, the Black men in Carter\u2019s group said they face specific pressures \u2013 to act tough, to already know how to do certain tasks, to be strong and not show emotions.<\/p>\n <\/span>\u2018You have this duality of, \u2018I have to be the provider,\u2019\u2019 psychologist Lance Lenford says, later adding: \u2018but I\u2019m also kind of falling apart.\u2019 <\/span><\/p>\n Some men were influenced to come to the meeting because another man told them to come. Others expressed being stressed, depressed or feeling like the world is caving in. They expressed the adjustment that comes from feeling like they are losing their masculinity or lifestyle and friendships due to the responsibilities of family life and parenthood.<\/p>\n \u201cIf I can do anything, if I look back and look at their lives and see that they didn\u2019t do this, that they didn\u2019t express themselves,\u201d said one of the men, whose father and grandfather had history of bipolar disorder. \u201cThey were mad, and it took years, and then they just were more mad. And then something happened in their life, something flipped.\u201d<\/p>\n Wayne Bennett, president of Mental Health is Wealth and a corporate wellness consultant and men\u2019s life coach in Los Angeles, helps men build healthier ways to express their emotions whether it\u2019s in a professional or personal sense. He said the group serves as a safe space for the men where they don\u2019t have to wear a mask. His specific goal is to help men break generational cycles and foster emotional expression.<\/p>\n <\/span>\u2018This is a great gateway to going into therapy,\u2019 co-moderator Wayne Bennett says. <\/span><\/p>\n \u201cA lot of the men talk about being depressed or not having any type of leadership growing up and just kind of having to figure things out on their own,\u201d Bennett, 41, said. \u201cA lot of the men may have never been to therapy before, so this is a great gateway to going into therapy.\u201d<\/p>\n In LA, a region that has a unique history of police brutality , gangs and mass incarceration \u2013 all disproportionately affecting Black men, they have to wear a guard. Bennett said he had talked to Black men and they expect their interaction to be transactional, career-driven or aggressive. There is a lack of trust that men must build within each other in LA, he added.<\/p>\n Carter created the group in 2022 as a preventive measure to make Black men like him think about getting counseling and therapy. He said talking to other Black men has been healing for him, too.<\/p>\n \u201cI just wanted this to be a space where they could kind of just dump, not only dump, but also celebrate wins as well,\u201d he said. \u201cI want this space for people and for our brothers to get their flowers.\u201d<\/p>\n <\/span>\u2018I want this space for people and for our brothers to get their flowers,\u2019 Carter says.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Desmond Carter is on a mission to save the lives of Black men. Carter, founder of Mental Health Is Real Wealth, leads a bi-monthly mental health group in Los Angeles\u2019 Leimert Park neighborhood, and on a recent Thursday, 15 Black men gathered inside a conference room without pressure and without women. 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