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\n\tAt the end of The Bear\u2018s<\/em> fourth season, Carmy (Jeremy Allen White) withdraws his stake in the restaurant and declares he\u2019s leaving the culinary industry altogether. In what can be described as either an act of martyrdom or growth, he acknowledges that all of his work has been linked to his familial trauma and gives Richie (Ebon Moss-Bachrach) his stake, making his cousin, sister Natalie (Abby Elliott) and restaurant partner Sydney (Ayo Edebiri) its three owners.<\/p>\n \n\tFor a show that has spent all this time exploring the duality of abuse and resilience within the toxic kitchens of America\u2019s restaurants, it\u2019s a somewhat risky move. But through Carmy\u2019s choice, The Bear<\/em> captures not just how we can use work to process, escape or bury our trauma, but also potentially destroy ourselves, our work and our relationships doing the things we love.<\/p>\n \n\tThat\u2019s not a particularly new thread for the series, which has spent four seasons exploring the destructive nature of passion, inspiring a wave of pieces about the restaurant industry and its many problems. But what has made the FX series one of TV\u2019s biggest hits is how it uses the professional kitchen to speak to a larger truth of toxic workplaces and mental health.<\/p>\n \n\tAs Americans, we spend an estimated third of our lives working, and that work is seen by many as a major metric for evaluating self-worth. So if work offers feelings of joy, accomplishment or success, then you must be doing \u201cwell,\u201d right? That\u2019s complicated in a culture where both blue- and white-collar Americans are working more than ever while facing stagnant pay and fewer promotions amid rising costs. It\u2019s a modern work culture in which jobs are also increasingly encroaching on our personal lives \u2014 from homes becoming offices (and as we front that cost) to personal devices delivering more work emails and messages in off-hours.<\/p>\n \n\tIt\u2019s harder to escape work, and as a result, American workers are facing more and more psychological and physical strain, leaving \u201cwork-life balance\u201d in the dust. For those who don\u2019t have healthy mechanisms for dealing with their trauma, that can be appealing. Everyone knows that the relentless speed of Carmy\u2019s kitchen, and his more recent obsession with reimagining The Bear\u2019s daily menu, has been equally ambitious and outlandish. But if your work is how you bury your feelings, reimagining your restaurant every 24 hours \u2014 while creating an endless stream of impossible goals and expectations \u2014 means you\u2019ll never have time to think about those feelings.<\/p>\n \n\tInstead, you can pile on more and more, distract yourself through the work and justify it all by the moments it\u2019s successful. In the meantime, you\u2019re chipping away at your sleeping, eating, relationships and other interests, becoming emotionally dysregulated and cycling among bouts of mania, fatigue, disassociation, anxiety and overstimulation. Destroying yourself for a job you need but hate while trapped in a cycle of survival and responsibility isn\u2019t the same as choosing a job you love that ultimately hurts you. As someone in the latter category, I know some people love work that doesn\u2019t love them back \u2014 and there\u2019s a reason why they like that dynamic.<\/p>\n \n\tWhen I was 25, my mother died at 51 because she couldn\u2019t stop working. On paper, it was kidney failure following a series of undertreated disabilities and medical emergencies exacerbated by being a single parent working 40-hour-plus weeks in a position that was toxic and abusive. But even as she became increasingly sick and people began to tell her to retire early, she wouldn\u2019t stop. Ask anyone who knew her, and they\u2019ll tell you why: She loved the work she did.<\/p>\n \n\tCarmy\u2019s complicated relationships (to work, alcohol) are learned responses from his mother, Donna (Jamie Lee Curtis), and something most recognize as a coping mechanism. For nearly a decade, I followed my mother on the path of weaponizing my work to find temporary relief from the mental discomfort and emotional pain of losing her. In our culture, (over)dedication to our jobs is championed, but like addiction, it can be destructive. I\u2019m not sure I would\u2019ve even realized that if I wasn\u2019t so quickly losing everything: friends and time with family, but also emotional regulation, mental and physical health and, ultimately, the drive to do what I supposedly loved.<\/p>\n \n\tFrom the first season of The Bear<\/em>, Carmy\u2019s been racing against a ticking clock \u2014 to save the restaurant, to reopen it, to make it profitable, to prevent his own implosion. With every new goal or demand, he\u2019s pushed himself and his kitchen further, resulting mostly in skin-of-their-teeth success. It\u2019s also created a fresh trail of injuries fueled by constant professional chaos, leaving less time and energy to tend to older wounds etched by familial trauma.<\/p>\n \n\tAnd that\u2019s the whole idea. Carmy has given himself to his career and The Bear, not just because it\u2019s easier to explain away how you\u2019ve destroyed yourself for something you love but because transforming your dead brother\u2019s restaurant into a success in his honor is easier than addressing why you ran away from him and your family to begin with.<\/p>\n \n\tBut that\u2019s also why Carmy\u2019s decision to leave The Bear isn\u2019t just his avoidant coping mechanism. It\u2019s a sign of his resilience. For Carmy to get off the path of completely destroying what he and his crew love, he must accept that growth and healing will not always come from pushing through. No matter how many things or people you put between you and the bear, you cannot outrun it. You cannot outrun your trauma. You have to stop, get off the path and look it in the face.<\/p>\n \n\tThis story first appeared in an August stand-alone issue of The Hollywood Reporter magazine. 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